March 31, 2012

The secret to a happy marriage



It is not who is kinder

she told me this
and other things
out of the corner of her mouth
as though we might get detention
for talking
on the bus.

I was fifteen
she was eighty

married for over fifty years
she said with amazement
as though referring to someone else.

She was tall
and winked a lot
which had a way of making
me feel special
even though we just met

you can’t water a garden in a drought
she laughed like a cowboy
the nicest thing you can do for a husband

is be the smartest
happiest
most irresistible
you
.

I asked her what he was like
she smiled and she said he was long dead
but he made her laugh so much
she had a backlog of love
to last her
until it was her time
to join him.

I thought of her today
in the grocery store
when my husband lifted my son over the aisle
to peer down on me
so it looked like he was fifteen feet tall

the little grievances I’d been nurturing the past hour
like rotten fruit
fluttered away
and I finally got what she meant
about the drought

I laughed out loud
and as the happiness returned
I could almost feel the love
gushing.

It made me ache for the kind of heaven
they show in the movies
the two of them up there
all shiny and warm
he is telling her stories
and she is floating
in joy.

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Thank you. Poignant and perfect…such succinct wisdom from the woman on the bus.

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how beautiful…sigh….

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yes this is a great poem and I am off to hug and kiss my honey. it really can be simple. choose happiness and Love. Let go of the petty. thanks

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Every time I read this it brings tears to my eyes! So lovely! Thank you…

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Did you write this?
I just found it on a group page, and am googling it, cuz no one knew who wrote it!
(I will happily go back to my group and post that it is yours!)
Please let me know!
Thanks!

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Nice. I really like the flow of this.

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Wow, wonderful!

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achingly beautiful

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This is so important to remember! Thank you!

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Everything about this one is wonderful.

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this is such a beautiful and honest poem. Something I struggle with, and this poem makes me see it in a new way. I especially love that old woman and her backlog of love. If only we all felt that way.

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Two moments captured..a bus ride, and grocery shopping – but nothing ordinary about them. Gorgeous, gorgeous poem.

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this is wonderful…thank you.

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Beautiful moment. That’s what poems are to me … beautiful moments articulated. Thanks!

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Blessings on you abundantly for this wonderfully enchanting poem honoring old married love and younger married love in the grocery store!

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new favourite :)

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